Coping with a miscarriage
No soon to be mom wants to suffer a miscarriage, but sadly, it is something that many women have experienced. One of the worst things about miscarriages is that there isn’t really anything that you can do to prevent them; it is one of those things that simply just happens. However, it is said that worrying and stressing over miscarrying can increase your risk of having one.
When it comes to miscarriages, there is not a lot of information out there for moms because of how the topic is avoided. Nobody really knows what to say to a mom that has just lost her baby, so rather than try talking about it people just tend to avoid the subject. However, simply not talking about miscarriages is not going to make them magically disappear, no matter how much we moms wished it would. So if you or somebody you know has recently suffered from a miscarriage the last thing you want to do is bottle your emotions up inside, instead talk about how you are feeling. If you are trying to help a friend get through her miscarriage simply listening to hear or offering her a shoulder to cry on is one of the best things that you can do.
Talking about your loss is one way to cope with your loss, but giving yourself time to grieve is just as important. Too many women try to get back to their normal life as soon as possible thinking it will help with their loss, but that isn’t always the case. Experts recommend that you give yourself time to grieve over the loss of your baby, don’t try to pretend it never happened. And most importantly don’t listen to those people who tell you oh it’s o.k. you can just try again, you can, but only once, you feel you are ready. One way to do this is to be honest with your loved ones or even join a support group to help cope with your loss. Avoiding it because it makes you sad is not going to help!
Something else that you need to realize in order to cope with your feelings after a miscarriage is that it isn’t your fault. Sadly, there is nothing that can be done to prevent miscarriages, but that doesn’t mean the loss isn’t devastating. Majority of the time miscarriages happen because something didn’t go right during the implantation process or because the embryo isn’t developing properly. In either case, many women tell themselves that the miscarriage happened because the baby wasn’t healthy to begin with. For many women this helps them wrap their head around the fact that it wasn’t their fault and there was nothing they could have done to prevent it.
Finally, what some women have found helpful is to keep a memory book from the pregnancy that you lost. In the memory book, you can even name the baby using a name that works for either a boy or a girl, but some women pick a boy or girl name based on if they had a strong feeling of the sex. You can also include little keepsakes in the memory box, such as the pregnancy test or even your birth announcement. Other moms find it helpful to get a piece of jewelry that they can wear to honor their lost child.
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